Patricia Lynn Belkowitz, M.Msc., C.Ht., EFT

beau·ty (by›“t¶) n., pl. beau·ties. 1. A delightful quality associated with harmony of form or color, excellence of craftsmanship, truthfulness, originality, or another property.

              Beauty is an elusive concept, considering “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”. The American Heritage Dictionary defines beauty by its attributes. “Harmony of form” is important, but that is a matter of perception. “Truthfulness” and “originality”, which are also defined as “authenticity”, are equally important. Perhaps most important, is “another property”. Is this “property” the elusive quality that emanates from “beautiful” people? Is this “property” the intangible quality of self-esteem?

               Every beauty kit should contain a smile and a sense of well-being. It should be packed with self-acceptance and self-confidence. When you feel good, you look good.

               Body image and perception can change with your moods. While experiencing a difficult day, you may engage in negative self-talk. It may be “a bad hair day”, or you may think, “these pants make me look fat” or “my nose is too big”. These, or other negative comments, are the result of years of repetitive subconscious programming. Where did you learn to measure your value in terms of your physical body? What is another way to acknowledge your self? Letting go of judgment allows you to listen to the needs of your body and spirit. Become aware of thought patterns and negative self-talk about your body.

               When you accept yourself as you are, you respect your thoughts and emotions. You develop a sense of pride and self-worth. When you accept yourself with grace and ease, you develop your confidence, your talents and your abilities. When you accept yourself, you develop an appreciation and respect for your physical body. You become less critical and more gentle with yourself. When you accept yourself, you experience self-love. You emanate the beauty of your spirit.

              “Self-Esteem” by Matthew McKay and Patrick Fanning (Third Edition, New Harbinger Publications, 2000) regards hypnosis and visualization as effective tools for building and maintaining self-acceptance. Hypnotherapy can help you set goals and provide motivation to achieve those goals. When goals are met, you nourish a belief in yourself and benefit from an increase in self-confidence. Imagery can help you to visualize your ideal self, reinforcing the positive qualities you possess, while enhancing behaviors that help to achieve your goals.

               Using the power of your subconscious mind can increase your self-awareness. A Certified Hypnotherapist can help you to access that power. Your subconscious mind, the 88% of your mind that controls your behavior, is available to you through hypnotic techniques. Hypnotherapy can also help you control unwanted habits that affect your self-esteem, and aid in the elimination of negative behaviors such as pessimism or worry. It can help you to achieve self-mastery.

                When you possess self-love and acceptance, you are “beautiful”, in every sense of the word. You have the power.