Patricia Lynn Belkowitz, M.Msc., C.Ht., EFT




Feelings are messy. Often, we push them aside in order to get on with life. Sometimes, it’s too difficult to even identify the emotion – to name it. We just know we don’t feel good.

We may feel uneasy. Maybe it’s despair? Anger? Frustration? Anxiety? Sadness? Fear? All these emotions are natural and normal responses to uncertainty. We live in uncertain times. Give yourself permission to feel your feelings.

What have you been focused on? Are you thinking about what you want – good health for you and your loved ones; prosperity? Or are you thinking about what you don’t want – fears of illness and financial need? Why were you focusing on that thought? Maybe you believe you’re being realistic. Isn’t that interesting?

Become aware of how your thoughts are affecting your emotions. Perhaps you may notice a physical reaction. You may feel tightness in your chest or queasiness in your belly. Focus on another thought – a good thought that makes you feel happy or safe – a thought about what you want.

Realize your emotions, as well as your physical responses to those emotions, are a reaction to your thoughts. And you are in control of your thoughts. No one else lives in your head.

Let the thoughts come and go without attaching any significance to them. Realize that you are not the thoughts, but the witness of the thoughts. Become the outside observer – rise above your ego self in your level of consciousness.

Become aware of yourself outside of yourself as if you were observing a friend or loved one. Note that from this perspective, your level of compassion may change. You may feel more loving toward yourself. You may experience a better sense of understanding about why you are feeling the way you are feeling.

Right now, we are all just like the caterpillar who surrounds itself in a cocoon and turns into a pile of goop. Now is a time to be gentle with yourself. Now is the time to use your imaginal cells to become the butterfly – a new way of being.

What you tell yourself is very important. Because what you tell yourself ultimately determines what you are and are not able to do…so do this.

Tell yourself: Even though I am feeling uneasy, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

And then Ask yourself: How can I help you to feel better? And then do that.

Even in uncertain times, there is one thing of which you can be certain. Everything changes. Everything is temporary. Stay focused in the now moment. Practice lovingkindness. And trust.