Do you feel in control of your life? Or does it feel like everything is out of control? It can be scary when situations in life change and you’re not sure what to do next. When you’re doing something new and unfamiliar, you may be frightened until you know what to expect. If you want to feel more in control, check your attitude. Your attitude is the control center of your life. And your attitude is based on your thoughts and beliefs.
As human beings, we are programmed to consider new experiences with a certain amount of fear. We can feel uncomfortable. We want to know what to expect so we can feel comfortable; more in control of the situation. Your attitude about yourself and your abilities affects your expectations. Your attitude is your belief in yourself and is a reflection of your self-confidence. Your behavior is a reflection of your attitude. Your attitude is the way your think or feel about something. It is your view; the way you approach life. It is your personal perspective of the way things are…your story.
Remember that the new and unfamiliar future only exists in your thoughts. And you are in control of your thoughts. We are making it up as we go. We tell ourselves a story about what might happen. We base the story on what has happened in the past and our feelings about what has happened. Sometimes we tell ourselves a good story and we feel good. When we allow ourselves to imagine and experience a positive expectation, we benefit from those thoughts. We are more prepared and at ease in new situations. We feel more confident about our actions. We get to practice through visualization in our mind’s eye before we experience the reality. We get inspired to follow through on our goals when we get in touch with our feelings about the achievement of the goal or the end of the story.
Sometimes we tell ourselves a very bad story which makes us feel out of control. When you tell a bad story, you experience fear and anxiety about things which don’t even exist yet! When you’re worrying about the future, you are literally planning for things you don’t want to happen. All the time and energy you spend in this negative emotional state is working against you. You are literally creating your own worst fears. And your physical body is reacting to and suffering from those thoughts!
I want to remind you that you are always in control of your thoughts. You are making up the story…good or bad. You are consciously making a choice about which thoughts to focus upon. Why not spend your time and energy focusing on your desires instead of your fears? Imagine the best case scenario. Focus on what you want instead of what you don’t want! You want to be slim. You don’t want to be fat. You want to be prosperous. You don’t want to struggle financially. You want to be loveable. You don’t want to be alone. Just that shift in thinking will make a difference about how you feel. It will also make a difference in how you act and how you react. In that moment, you actively take part in the creation of your life. You take control of the situation. You create the story. And your attitude creates the happy ending!