Patricia Lynn Belkowitz, M.Msc., C.Ht., EFT

“Letting go of a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. “ ~ C.S. Lewis


Do you deserve to be angry? Are there circumstances in your life that are unjust? Have you had an experience where you were treated badly? Maybe you deserve to be sad too! Or frustrated. Or disappointed. I’d like you to consider that even though circumstances may create a right to be angry, you also have a right to be happy instead. You deserve it.  Letting go of negative thoughts and the emotions they create is always in your best interest.

Do you realize that whoever you are angry with or whatever you are angry about is not experiencing the results of your wrath? But you are!!! When you’re angry with your boss, or spouse, or kid, or government…they don’t suffer what you suffer. When you think angry thoughts, your body suffers. You may grind your teeth or clench your fists. You may experience flushing, paling or sweating. However you feel your anger, it’s much like the fight/flight response of survival. Stress hormones like adrenaline and cortisol flood through your body. Your amygdala, the part of the brain that deals with emotion, is going crazy. It wants to act! And it wants to act right now! Meanwhile, the frontal lobe which controls reasoning, is desperately pulsing to balance it out. This is why it’s a good idea to count to ten before acting!

If you constantly think you deserve to be angry, this state of response can start to cause damage. Your nervous system is overworked and can eventually become overexerted. You can potentially damage your heart, your liver and your kidney. Anger may also be accompanied by depression or anxiety. Chronic anger can create disease and early death.

“If you let go a little, you will have a little peace. If you let go a lot, you will have a lot of peace.” ~Ajahn Chah

I’d like to remind you that you deserve happiness and joy. You have a right to experience a life filled with the good stuff. Make a decision now to let go of the thoughts that create anger or any negative emotions. You are only hurting yourself. And that’s just not right. You deserve better.